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Anxiety is one of the most common conditions that everyone experiences. In most cases, this is the result of the accumulation of stress, due to a number of internal and external factors that affect our mood. In this article, we will talk about how to control anxiety.

Anxiety is a state of anxiety with many different feelings, but people who experience it are often unable to describe the details. It is worth remembering that anxiety is different from fear, because fear is tied to something specific. Moreover, it is not a kind of external sign, but rather a manifestation of an internal conflict. Therefore, you should start an internal search for what affects you this way and complicates your life.

The surest step is to call for help, because it is very important to understand that you are not yourself, and even more so - not crazy. This state is experienced by many people, which is why considering yourself special or not quite normal is not the best solution.

Anxiety is characteristic

This type of anxiety is a condition that a person periodically experiences from a very young age. In other words, anxiety has become a part of life, and here it is necessary to attract a specialist who would help to control such conditions when they turn into anxiety.

It is extremely important not to forget that anxiety symptoms can be overcome without medical means, but only with the help of simple techniques.

Positive thinking

The first tip is to control your thoughts. Do not be strict perfectionists, because it will turn you into a very annoyed person, and, accordingly, alarmed. Try to get rid of control not only of your physical movements, but also of your thoughts. Relax. Stop worrying about the future, because it is always unpredictable. Focus on a quiet life right now, every day.

Do what you love

Peace can also be given to you by doing those things that you love most. In general, people who suffer from constant anxiety spend little time on their favorite activities, but most of the time is spent on duties that bring little pleasure. So, if you like reading, walking, sports - then it's time to start about your hobbies.

Soothing exercises

You can help yourself get rid of stress through soothing exercises, or do something like yoga if you like it more. Such exercises will help maintain internal balance, for the absence of which the external balance is also violated. In addition, they will be useful for the health of your body and a toned look.

Emotions and mood

Inability to cope with their emotions and moods can indicate serious problems in the human psyche. Emotions can conditionally be divided into two groups:

  • Positive. Their availability is appreciated.
  • Negative. They try to avoid them.

They can also be divided into two other groups: active and passive. For example, fear can be attributed to a negative and positive group, since it forces a person to scan the situation for the threat and its avoidance.

Mood can also be attributed to emotions, but the significant difference is that they are longer in time. People who are prone to social anxiety and depression are in a chronically negative mood and are unable to deal with it.

Personal character traits determine how a person thinks, feels and how he acts. They arise in childhood and are fixed in adulthood. Neuroticism refers to the negative emotional system. This means that if a person is prone to neuroticism, he experiences stronger negative emotions than a healthy person, more vulnerable and vulnerable. Therefore, he needs more time to calm down. Accordingly, much more harm is done to the body.

Social Impact and Relative Value

By nature, we are social creatures with our needs and goals. We have fundamental motivations for social impact (when people act in our interests) and relative value (when others value us). Our emotional system guides us to profit and avoid losses due to social impact and relative value. People affected by social anxiety are oriented not to lose. They are more prone to sadness, pain, guilt and shame (although they avoid it) than love, joy, pride and pleasure.

Fear of strangers and uncertainty, public speaking and comparisons, conflicts and denials

This is the most obvious sign. Strangers carry uncertainty for such people, because it is not known what to expect from them. This causes fear and anxiety.

The fear of public speaking arises from the fear of losing social impact and relative value (from the third paragraph). Everything is aggravated by the fact that such people are afraid that they will be compared with other speakers and they will lose their value against their background.

The same thing happens with conflicts. A person feels that he is losing social impact, so he tries to avoid them. The same applies to the fear of failure. It’s better not to try to get to know each other than to be refused.


Inside such people sits an internal censor, which does not allow them to openly express their emotions and thoughts in public. Because of this, a person feels himself hypocritical and insincere, which means that it is better to be silent and not express emotions at all than to experience it. In addition, society presents some requirements and expectations, reactions and judgments. And since the reaction of society is uncertain, a decision is made to remain inactive.

Criticizing Inner Voice

This voice sounds much louder when a person has the impression that he does not meet the requirements and expectations of society. This leads to the fact that a person either tries to work on himself or to avoid doing “stupid things”.

According to statistics, about 7% of people on the planet are affected by social anxiety, although almost all of them are “sick” to one degree or another. This problem is so serious that one cannot recommend anything as a miracle cure. You have to do a lot of work on yourself: understand your psychology, get rid of phobias, leave your comfort zone, learn to communicate with other people, manage your emotions and gain confidence. 4Brain can help you overcome many challenges. Good luck!